Even if you take all the suggestions in my books and this blog, you are bound to come up against a wall now and then. You may sometimes wonder exactly what you are doing, as nothing seems to be happening. And at times throughout this quiet-corner process (there’s that term again!), you may question everything. At such times, you will need to reach into your heart and grab hold of some faith—faith that the process works, faith that you are on the right path, faith that all is not for naught.
Turning to faith to get you through the rocky moments will be especially critical as you begin this process. Further along the path, as you build up your experiences, you will be able to identify these illusionary roadblocks for what they usually are—annoying distractions that have no base in reality. But in the beginning, faith is often necessary to push you through. And faith will come in handy as you continue your journey when all that you believed is called into question. Turning to faith early on in the process makes it much more accessible later on.
The word faith has been so closely associated with religion over the years that in some circles it has a negative connotation. If you are included in one of those circles, try for a moment to disassociate faith from religion. Think of faith as a heart thing that has nothing to do with your brain. Try to let go of the old meaning and don’t attach any new meaning to it. Just try to feel it. First, challenge yourself and have faith in your ability to follow the quiet-corner path. From there, it’s easy to transfer that faith to the process and know that as long as you proceed faithfully, you will be in sync with the process and the process will not fail you. Keep faith in your heart and you won’t even have to think about it.
Let Your Breathing Guide You
Listen to your breath all along the way. As you proceed with finding a quiet corner, each time you settle into one, allow your breath, not your brain, to guide you. As thoughts rise, identify and accept them as thoughts and let them float away.
As you breathe and concentrate on each breath, become aware of the source of your breath.
Lie on your back on the floor with your arms gently relaxed at your sides, palms up. Relax and breathe into your lower abdomen. As you inhale, notice your stomach rise. As you exhale, notice it fall. If your breath is stuck in your throat or chest, try sending it down to your abdomen. Place one palm on your stomach so that you can feel the motion of your breathing. If you’ve ever watched a young baby breathe, you will know how smooth, natural, and unhindered breathing can be. Try to breathe like a child. Each time you practice your breathing, come back to this exercise until this way of breathing becomes natural again in any position.
While it may take some time and practice to soften and deepen your breathing, turn to it at any point and use it as your guide. If your mind is clouded with too many thoughts and your brain is in overdrive, turn it all over to your breath and allow this natural rhythm to sort it all out. Take yourself out of the picture.
If you are in your quiet corner and don’t know what to do, listen to your breath and stop trying to make a decision. Let your breath do it for you. Give up that responsibility. Just breathe.